After taking Mum to see her sister last week, and Mum then telling my sisters that I went without her (how did she remember that I went but forgot that she came too?!), I did think twice about how much effort should go into her outings.  Apparently she was quite cross that I hadn’t taken her…🤦🏼‍♀️

But I guess even if she doesn’t remember a few hours later, she does enjoy doing things in the moment, and people spend forever learning how to live in the moment, so maybe I should just accept that Mum has actually attained a higher level of…something.

So this week, at Lovely Friends suggestion, we went to  ‘Cafe on the Green’ a weekly event at a nearby village where older people gather for tea and biscuits, a good natter and occasional activities.  This is something Mum would usually hate and walking in I had butterflies in my tummy.  She loved it.  I think it helped that Lovely Friend came to sit with us while we were there, but Mum also loved that the helpers chatted to her (and cleverly didn’t ask her any questions so she didn’t have to do anything other than say hello in return).  It was Valerie’s 90th birthday.  Valerie didn’t look a day over 79.  We all sang happy birthday to Valerie and in return were given a slice of  birthday cake.  That was also a highlight for Mum.  She’s a sucker for a piece of cake.

So we will go back to Cafe on the Green.  I imagine it might be a new experience for Mum each time we go.  I’m just hoping she doesn’t decide that I’ve been going without her…

I also drove Mum to see this wisteria….it’s absolutely stunning.  She’d forgotten that before we even got back home though 🤦🏼‍♀️